1. Get Out of Your Head
One of the biggest mistakes people make is overthinking it. Dirty talk doesn’t have to be a porn script or sound like a cheesy movie. Start simple: describe what you’re feeling, what you want to do, or how good they make you feel. A low, breathy “I love how you taste” or “I can’t wait to feel you inside me” can drive them wild.
2. Know What Turns You On
The best dirty talk feels real because it is. Before you open your mouth, get clear on what actually turns you on. Is it being praised? Bossed around? Degraded a little? A good rule: if it makes you hot to say it, they’ll feel that heat too.
3. Use All Five Senses
Don’t just talk about what’s happening — paint a picture. Describe how their skin tastes, how you love the sound of them moaning, or what you want to see them do next. The more vivid, the better.
4. Give Commands (or Take Them)
Want to ramp things up? Try some power play. A soft “Take your clothes off for me” or “Beg for it” can make your partner’s knees buckle. Or, if you like to surrender control, say, “Tell me what you want me to do next…”
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Filthy
If you’re both into it, don’t hold back! Some people love words that would make your mother faint — so go ahead and call them what you’d only whisper alone. Just remember: consent is key.
6. Practice Makes Perfect
Yes, it can feel awkward at first. Laugh, slip up, giggle together — that’s half the fun. Start small, read a bit of erotica for inspo, or warm up over text. Once you get comfortable, you’ll find your own rhythm.
Final Dirty Words…
Dirty talk isn’t about being the “best.” It’s about being present, playful, and real. So let go of your inner critic, listen to what your partner responds to, and let your fantasies spill out.
After all, your mouth is just as much a tool for pleasure as any other part of you — so use it well.